Posted on March 31, 2006
Filed Under Ideas, Relationships, Video Podcasts

It's a night time show as I waited and waited for the rain to clear and decided to go to yoga to clear my head instead! I somehow missed getting footage of Lexi so hopefully you can detect her panting here and there.

Sorry! I forgot to mark this published on the final save last night! What a lousy April Fool's Joke. I am really not that clever...

Watch this video.
(4:44 minutes; 27.2 MB; Quicktime, it's required and it's free. Be sure you have the newest version if you are having trouble viewing the movie.)

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About Today's Show

Following on to yesterday's exploration of privacy...many couples I know claim the "spousal exemption" when it comes to maintaining another's privacy. I understand not wanting to keep secrets from your beloved. But I also believe that, for example, two girlfriends should be able to have "privileged" conversations that never make it over to the husband's world.

What do you think?

Theme music is Kaimoku: The Ukulele Experiment

Hawaiian words
Kekahi: spouse

Tags: vlog, video,video podcast,walk, beach, roxanne darling, lexi, kaimoku

Comments

4 Responses to “Beach Walk #39”

Matt on April 3rd, 2006 10:17 pm

I think that the issues that come with sharing or holding information from a partner can be quite complex. Surprisingly it is not as innocent as it should be. On the one hand there is the trust; both want to feel there is complete trust, so that there are no secrets. Then there is the fact that many will gauge the success of their relationship on the strength of that trust. On the other hand there is ego: "Why dont you trust me enough to tell me?.. don't you love me?", or "What are you hiding from me" at which point eyes start to roll. Then there is the voice of the child inside that feels left out because it doesn't know everything, it is not part of the circle. Occasionally there are relationships that have their individual separate friendships, but I think that they are rare. I think that more often than not, 'telling all' is used as a bit of a litmus test on trust in a relationship.

Frankly, some people just can't keep that information inside anyway! Most people love having that piece of information, it's like an ego trip all on it's own and they just have to tell someone!

From the male perspective, in general, I would suggest that we often can't handle that level of complexity, so we just do what's easiest - we do what we're told!
Frankly, some people just can't keep that information in anyway, most people love having that piece of information, it's like an ego trip all on it's own and they just have to tell someone!

From the male perspective, in general, I would suggest that we often can't handle that level of complexity, so we just do what's easiest - we do what we're told!

Matt on April 3rd, 2006 10:20 pm

Note to self: copy and paste over your editting properly!

Rox on April 4th, 2006 8:07 am

Matt, I think you really captured something with "Frankly, some people just can't keep that information inside anyway!" I have certainly felt a compelling urge to want to "share" something with another person. (Though I pride myself in being able to resist urges - for better or worse!) Of course, I've also been on the other side when I did not want my sharing to go further than one person's ears.

Full disclosure seems to work: tell me if you can or cannot keep a secret so I can know whether to tell you mine or not. Then it's my responsibility to choose with whom I confide. And yours to know if you can or can't. (Will or won't?)

Way back when we were kids, my little sister was once begging the older sisters to tell her what we were talking about. We said, "No, you'll just blab it to Mom and Dad." She said, quite insightfully, "No I won't!!! [pause] But it might slip out!" There is definitely an "impulse control" thing that is harder to manage for some people.