Posted on April 22, 2008
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If you watch this show regularly, you know that I like teasing apart the little nuances and discrepancies in how we use words, the language. It packs so much subtle energy, and that energy can actually interfere with the pursuit of happiness IMO. One example is the difference between compromise and negotiation. In compromise, it looks like two people facing (off) against each other, with the problem in the middle. Both people typically feel like they have to give up something in order to solve the problem in the middle, to save the relationship, which is also in the middle. In negotiation, people can sit side by side and face the problem/relationship together, looking to see how much of a win each can gain from creative problem-solving. Negotiation is deliciously devoid of tit for tat energy.

Hawaiian word:
Lanakila: win, triumph

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3 Responses to “Beach Walk 623 – Solving Problems Side by Side”

Kekoa on April 22nd, 2008 8:26 am

Thank you so much for this video, Rox & Shane. There's a philosophy that states that everything is working out perfectly. And today is definitely the day I needed to hear this message.

It's very true. When we give people free will in a situation, it gives them room to explore. I see the difference between compromise and negotiation as the difference between dissonance and harmony. By sharing ideas through negotiation, we can create harmony for both.

May everyone experience lanakila today.

Rox on April 22nd, 2008 9:47 am

@Kekoa - you are so very welcome. There is this lovely and loving synchronicity of Beach Walks - it just seems that our random thoughts land right in other people's lives at just the right time.

I find people are so reluctant to negotiate because they think they will have to be "coughing up" something for the other side. But really, these speed bumps are like all the rest - an opportunity for more consciousness, more creativity, more happiness. They help us explore the unknown regions of our limitations, and there is often gold in them thar hills!